I had absolutely no intention of condescending, and am sorry my comments seemed that way.
Regarding my usage of PC & Android, I need to supply some perspective. In 1964 I first was paid to be a programmer. Mainframe with Fortran and Cobol. It was not until 1982 that I was briefly assigned to a project involving Apples. At that time they and the other brands were collectively referred to as “personal computers”. I’m not sure when there was a shift to separate Apples from other brands, and sometimes group those as “PCs”.
At the office there was an earlier 46# personal computer of a brand I don’t recall I occasionally lugged home to continue some work.
In 1987 I bought my first Apple - a home dial-up machine. I’ve been buying a new home machine every 5-8 years since. My purchase trigger is when the old machine won’t do TurboTax. Each time I have to re-study up on tech specs to decide which model. It is difficult enough for me that I REALLY had sympathy for OP with a much older gift machine and apparently never having actually been in the profession. I stick with Apples because I know they will do what I want. There are other wonderful machines out there, but I’d have to do a huge amount of research among them to make sure I got it even close to right. And then, in addition to the over-time changes, I’d have to learn the brand-feature differences.
I’ve been retired for a little over 25 years so no longer have a work world/professional perspective. At the time I was truly in the profession, I probably used the proper terms for things then. Today, my current Apple is just an amazing little machine that serves personal purposes - getting BOCs, emailing, banking and bills, travel arranging, finding recipes, general research, etc. And other than mentioning gaming and VR, I thought her probable usage might be similar to mine. Then for those two uses she will need to learn a whole lot/get a whole lot of help before she knows what to buy.
At my age and computer usage, “dilettante” is probably even a compliment rather than an insult. I’m really not conversant with proper technical terms, and normally have no need to do so.
You do provide OP with a bunch of genuinely useful information. Your list was what triggered me to go back and check the Apple models I had mentioned to make sure they met your criteria, at least on the one point I was sure I would get right.
She well might get a more powerful machine for her $800 with a non-Apple but will need a guide or lots of luck, or a whole lot of studying. I couldn’t do that for her, but just wanted to supply the info of which I was sure. And Apple was it from me.
Your link to the VR article plus the point about maybe keeping that stand-alone should be useful for her.
Known brands for sure, although if I’d made the list I wouldn’t have known to add Acer and Asus as I’m not familiar with them. Another reason why I really was only able to suggest within my knowledge/experience area.
I’ve a son who was deeply enough into the profession to buy from Craigslist, but that and Woot! and similar are clearly not for regular people. We are in concurrence there. My point with a refurbished Apple from the manufacturer was that the source removed some of the risk, and I could attest to the success of my and my family’s experience. Again, we agree.